Financial Control: This Is How You Take Control of Your Relationship With Money

If you have a chaotic relationship with money (where feast + famine are your only meal times), here's how to channel your inner Rich Chick by taking control of it... from how much you make, to how to grow it for your future.

Hands up if growing up, you were given an allowance as a kid. 🙋‍♀️

And now hands up if you had a job before starting your own business. 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️

You're one of the many millions (billions?) of us who were conditioned from a very young age that money is given to you by someone else who controls the amount.

And over the years, this conditioning embeds a feeling of powerlessness around money. Because everything we think, feel and decide about money is created by that conditioned belief that we have no control over it.

For decades we rely on other people to give it to us in discriminate amounts pre-business - and when we take that 'employee' mindset into business, we cap ourselves by sabotaging very real opportunities to get paid more money than ever before.

It's like this classic photo...

Where subconsciously, you think the power over you from money is so strong, that you'll stand there waiting for someone else to decide how much you get.

How Was Mum + Dad With Money Growing Up?

Our beliefs around money are formed first of all by our parents (or other guardians).

Then once society gets its hands on us, it starts brainwashing us into feeling more powerless around money (consumerism, blaming other people or entities, taxes, pressure to 'keep up' etc.).

And if you look at social media comments, you can see people's money limitations through their resentment against 'the system' (yes the system sucks, the cost of living is out of control - and that's why we need to be resourceful ourselves).

Those comments stem from feeling out of control over their financial situation... so they throw blame onto everything outside of them.

Quick Note: I don't want to disregard or disrespect people who are genuinely struggling - and there's nuance to personal situations (everything I teach comes from my own money issues - everything I write or say is to my '10yrs ago self'... and anyone else who's nodding along)... so everyone's situation is different.

So over the years (and listening to too many other scarcity-focused people), our relationship with money becomes an inner conflict between needing security vs. avoiding negative labels.

This conflict creates fear and trepidation around money into our psyche, holds up an imaginary ceiling over our heads - and as a result, we do these things in our business;

• Undercharge because we don't want to "rip people off" (Hot tip: you can be in integrity and still make a ton of cash).

  
  

• Over-give or pushy sell and wonder why no one's buying.

  
  

• Panic spend. When we get paid, we get rid of it as quickly as possible.

  
  

• Roleplay Rich. Spend too much to look the part while going broke behind the scenes.

  
  

• Distrust yourself. Listen to people who have no business giving us business advice (or listen to too much business advice).

So it's this money roller coaster of highs and lows, creating anxiety, powerlessness... and never really getting anywhere in business that holds you back from the abundance you want.

The Fundamental Baseline for Your "Rich Chick Era"

If you don't learn anything else from me, just take this one thing away...

"All of the above is rapidly erased when you KNOW (deep down)

that you have control over money."

And because you believe that, you reduce money chaos. You become mindful about the money you make, spend and grow.

You trust yourself.

Imagine someone throwing you a hot potato, and you throw it away (instead of juggling it from hand to hand, complaining that it's too hot like you used to do).

There's a solution there, and now you can see it.

By switching your thinking to taking control, it helps you use your Executive Function (Pre-Frontal Cortex) to make a clear decision to change the situation. It's the little kickstart in your engine to get you moving forward in your business.

No longer are you someone with a tapped out nervous system who's struggling to find a way out of your money situation.

NOW you're deciding that you get to make as much money as you want.

So money stops being something hanging over your head and slightly out of reach like a dangling carrot... and becomes something you just make every day like it's no big deal.

Saying 'Bye Bye' to the Scarcity Monster for Good!

So how do you start turning this cashflow boat around?

1. Say the Magic Words. Say to yourself: "I'm in control of my own money situation". See how that feels in your body. If you feel a jump, a tighten, or a doubt, keep saying it until that sensation softens. That reaction is the "Part" of you that doesn't believe it yet.

2. The Thank You Technique. The next step is to say 'Thank you' to the fear. Thanking the part of you that's stressed calms your nervous system. It’s like a 3-year-old tugging your sleeve; if you give him 30 seconds of focused attention, he'll run off to play with his friends again.

When you work with the fearful parts of yourself (instead of trying to fight them off), you become whole.

And whole people make money (and hold onto it) WAY more than people who are chaotic with it.

So It's Time To Get Honest

What are you ready to admit about your current money situation?

And how is that feeding into your lack of control around money?

What can you do to take control today?

Being mindful about money is the best feeling ever.

That sense of control you get when you see your debts drop, savings rise, your income grows and your nervous system breathes a sigh of relief?

THAT'S WHAT PEACE FEELS LIKE!

Ains 😍

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